I think, but this is my personal opinion, that forgiveness is a personal permission to let go of a situation in your own way. Whatever others say you need or must do, including what I type now, only matters if it makes sense to you. If writing down the situation and burning the pages it in the fireplace relieves you, do it. If you breath lighter then, tell yourself: I will not allow this to hurt me so badly anymore. And every time the memories pop up, and they will, you will repeat like a mantra that you will not allow that old situation to hurt you again. It will hurt but hopefully less and less. I found that once I gave myself permission to let go and that I had a duty to protect myself, the process became easier. You will not forget but the sharp edges are off. I hope this helps, and I wish you well.
I have dug a hole in the ground after my dad died and screamed in it, not about forgiveness but the pain of grief needs a release just like forgiveness does.
@davidredpath I totally agree and thank you for commenting. I really had to work through the process and the decision to really forgive. Forgiveness is not a feeling, its a choice. Alice from https://www.defrostingcoldcases.com/ gave me a good idea and I used her advice. I really appreciate your words too, I am an overcomer!
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I think, but this is my personal opinion, that forgiveness is a personal permission to let go of a situation in your own way. Whatever others say you need or must do, including what I type now, only matters if it makes sense to you. If writing down the situation and burning the pages it in the fireplace relieves you, do it. If you breath lighter then, tell yourself: I will not allow this to hurt me so badly anymore. And every time the memories pop up, and they will, you will repeat like a mantra that you will not allow that old situation to hurt you again. It will hurt but hopefully less and less. I found that once I gave myself permission to let go and that I had a duty to protect myself, the process became easier. You will not forget but the sharp edges are off. I hope this helps, and I wish you well.
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Thank you thank you thank you. I’m in the process and it is a process. I think I’ll write it and burn it tonight
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I have dug a hole in the ground after my dad died and screamed in it, not about forgiveness but the pain of grief needs a release just like forgiveness does.
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That is a really really good idea!!! Pain in any form acknowledged and then buried…. outside of your body into the ground
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Forgiveness is in the process
of overcoming.
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@davidredpath I totally agree and thank you for commenting. I really had to work through the process and the decision to really forgive. Forgiveness is not a feeling, its a choice. Alice from https://www.defrostingcoldcases.com/ gave me a good idea and I used her advice. I really appreciate your words too, I am an overcomer!
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Inspiring to hear after all
you’ve been through 💪❤️👍
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well thank you for saying that!!
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